Close Calls by David Carder

Author:David Carder [Carder, Dave]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 978-0-8024-7981-5
Publisher: Moody Publishers
Published: 2008-01-15T00:00:00+00:00

COULD THIS BE YOU?

Though long and somewhat complicated, the following e-mail highlights many of the issues that make close calls so dangerous. Pay attention to the timing of the phone call, the dangerous partner’s experience at this sort of behavior, the business stressors that set up this close call, the addiction that had long been an irritation in the marriage, and finally, the distance that made this new friendship “safe.” Remember, no amount of miles will ever protect you in this culture!

Read this story in Gail’s words:

“My husband, Garry, and I have been married for sixteen years. For the most part, our marriage has been happy. We owned and worked a business together for many years.

“About six years ago or so he was offered a position with our supplier. The offer was too good to pass up, and we both decided he should do it even though the plan had been for me to get out of running our business since I was becoming unfulfilled with it.

“I therefore remained at the helm of our business. As the years passed, I noticed our marriage starting to change. It started feeling more like a business relationship than a marriage since we would both try not to step on each other’s toes taking care of the companies each of us were responsible for. One thing I seemed to notice was that Garry was more concerned about the company he was working for than the one he actually owned that I was overseeing, and this started to cause some ripples.

“Along with that complication, my husband has chewed tobacco ever since I met him. While we were dating, I had no problems with him chewing, as of course when you’re dating, your guy has no faults! But as the years continued, I began to dislike the habit and the taste and smell it left in his mouth. I began to kiss him less, and I let him know that that was why. We had gone to counseling a long time ago, and I brought that issue up, and he promptly told me in front of the counselor to live with his chewing. He had tried a few times to quit, but he seemed to go back to it pretty quickly.

“Around that time, we lost several of our business locations due to some ‘political’ reasons, and it was very difficult and emotional for both Garry and me. Since he did not have to work within our business on a daily basis as I did, he was able to get over the loss much more quickly. It affected me a lot, though. I felt I had lost half of my identity, yet Garry could not understand that. I do think it takes me longer to process things than he does.

“At any rate, our marriage began to suffer. We were also building a new home, and I was scared financially, especially since our business had just been cut in half. My husband does not worry about anything, so

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